Everyone has a role in their specific context. That’s the way it is. You must stop and listen when circumstances change, and your role is no longer relevant, even for a short while. Listen to yourself, listen to those around you.

More than anything else, you have to listen to your heart. Your heart is never wrong, it just is. 

The reality of my life story is not a funny or happy one. I lost my brother when I was five years old, and that’s an integral part of who I am. I learned to live with this, it took me years, but I did. 

The people who get to know me may need time to adjust now and then to how I speak about my brother. 

It may not be easy for some of them. I get that. Still, his death is part of my reality. It is who I am now. I always was Tal’s sister, but for years now, I’ve been dead Tal’s sister. That’s just the way it is. Take it or leave it, that’s what I say. 

Whoever cannot accept me as I am, with Tal’s death being a part of me and how I see life, cannot be a part of my reality, I think. It’s as simple as that.

Do you have a part of your life charged with deep emotions that move you to this day and will probably move you for the rest of your life? 

Are you free to be yourself with that? Can you claim your right to be? 

How important is it to you to recognize this and have it be integral to your life?

Just asking…