The first thing would be to get clear about that. If you don’t know what you want, you cannot ask for it. It’s as simple as that. When I speak of precision, though, I mean, before you ask – think. Think about what you want, and go into the details if you can. Make sure you are clear on what you’re asking for.
This is a no-brainer, but my life changed when I got that one. Do you know those obvious insights that are hiding in plain view? It made me feel stupid when I got this, but it changed my life completely.
When you ask, ask from the person who has the power to give it to you. The decision maker. Someone that sees you. That’s the person to ask from. If you’re asking for something from someone who cannot do anything about it, you’re wasting time and energy for both of you.
So before you ask, make sure you speak with the right person or entity for that specific request.
This may seem far-fetched, but hear me out. Do you know why you are asking for what you are asking? The “why” of your request can make or break the response you will get. This is the essence of proper marketing or any difference-making request. The why behind it makes the difference between a “yes – granted” or a “no, not now” answer.
As a rule of thumb, I’d say, if you’re asking only for yourself, the chances you’ll get a positive response depend on how much the person you’re asking from likes you.
On the other hand, if you’re asking not only for yourself but for anyone else too, which may include putting a particular request to a specific person for his sake as well, then it’s a whole new ball game.
The chances of a positive response increase 10-fold, if not more.
So, when you’re asking for something, think before you ask, think about who may benefit from your request, ask from the right person and be precise to get what you want. If you get all these right, chances are you’ll get more than you expect.
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