The gap between who you are and who you want to be

Even when I know I aspire for more, I sometimes cannot see beyond what I already know. I have been in a place like this for a few days now. It’s rare, but it happens. I feel trapped in my own mind, not knowing how to break through. 

As usual, I found the right book for the situation, more about that later.

Earlier in my life, I have gained a great habit with all the teams I’ve been working with, which seems appropriate for the current situation. 

Ask for help 

Asking for help is the best strategy when you’re stuck in your own mind. Ask for another perspective and someone who can help with what you’re stuck with. It’s simple, and it works. For many of us, it’s not easy, though. For some strange reason, we were taught that “not knowing,” “needing help,” and “being stuck and admitting it” is bad for us and our reputation. 

B.S. is what I have to say about this. There’s nothing more human than needing help from other human beings, especially in today’s world, where so much expertise is required to get by. And what if you want more than that? What if you want to say, thrive? 

You cannot do that without help. 

Not for nothing, psychologists today coined the term “Ego depletion” – “When the energy for mental activity is low, self-control is typically impaired, which would be considered a state of ego depletion.”(Wikipedia) 

And “Cognitive overload” – “A heavy cognitive load typically creates error or some kind of interference in the task at hand.” (Wikipedia) 

So, asking for help is the natural solution. 

I have two quotes for you concerning this

One is by Dan Sullivan: “Individuals, groups, organizations, industries, and even countries all over the world run into the same type of situation. They reach a plateau they must progress beyond. All current stages of growth in all areas of human activity eventually reach a ceiling. But recognizing it and knowing what’s needed to take the next step—that’s where true growth and success lie. Learning how to break through The Ceiling of Complexity is perhaps the most important life skill that anyone can develop.” from The Multiplier mindset blog.

And another one of my favorites from James Clear: “You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.“

This basically says – create a great support system, ask for help from others, those who are good at what you are not, and thrive.