Relationships are at the core of our being. This is why it’s essential, to upgrade your relationships constantly, at least the relationships you cannot do without.
It starts with our parents when we are born, then our siblings, our friends in kindergarten and in school, in all our extracurricular activities, at work when we grow up, and with our own spouses, children, friends, and so on.
Relationships are a key factor in our lives and our performance in life deeply depends on them. Optimizing your relationships optimizes life and your performance, in whatever it is you do. So here are three simple ways to upgrade your relationships.
Einstein said: “I think the most important question facing humanity is, ‘Is the universe a friendly place?’ This is the first and most basic question all people must answer for themselves.” In the question of relationships, coming from the man of relativity himself, this cannot be taken lightly.
This translates very simply into – kindness matters – be kind. Be Kind to strangers, be kind to your friends and family, but most of all, assume that people have good intentions. Give them the benefit of the doubt. It will be worth your while, especially if you work with them.
If you are right – it will be of great benefit, because then you will have acknowledged their good intentions and possible efforts for the good of all concerned. If they will do everything to prove you wrong, then, you may assume the opposite and decide how to react in the best way possible.
Last but not least is the question of how you respond when all the above fails somehow. There is only one answer for that, and it served humanity even in the hardest times. Viktor Frankel in his book Man’s Search for meaning gave us this profound thought. It pertains in my mind to our being “feeling creatures that think” as Jill Bolte Taylor defines us.
“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” ― Viktor E. Frankl.
Try to use your thoughts relating to your feelings, instead of kneejerk responses. Use that instant between stimulus and response and exercise your freedom to choose who you want to be in your relationships.
It can change your life.